Why couples therapy?
Breaking up is associated with a cost to your finances as well as your health and emotional wellbeing. People who break up are less likely to stay attached in the next relationship. It is worth it for you, your partner, your health, and your finances to improve your relationship.
What Is the Key to a Happy Relationship? Utube Video
How do you know this will improve your relationship?
First, what we learned from video taping couples for over 30 years is associated with a continued happy relationship. John Gottman video taped couples for 10 years providing enough time for breakup. Now, the couples were divided into two groups based on those who were still together a decade later. Looking at the original video tapes from ten years ago, it could be determined what the couples who were still happy in their relationship were doing different than the ones who broke up. What we know is based on what couples actually do rather than what we guess couples do, or what we say couples should do.
Second, the interventions were tested during another ten year period to determine if they worked. John Gottman enlisted the aid of a biological mathematician to help build a mathematical model of relationships. Now, small parts of interventions could be changed with predictable results. Math and research shows these interventions change what they intend to change and do have a positive effect on relationships as predicted.
Third, the interventions go beyond talk interventions of typical couple’s therapy. There are three sessions for history, emotion and interaction assessment along with twenty two paper and pencil assessments. All the interventions you experience are from assessments telling us where your relationship strengths are and where improvements could be made.
What are the interventions?
People do not stay in a relationship to solve problems. They stay in a relationship because of the friendship and affection it provides. We will work to strengthen all levels in your relationship by following the strong relationship house model. The interventions focus on helping build your relationship as well as decrease conflict. Each session is video-taped giving us the ability to review what has happened and learn a better way to process things. We will focus on how you are feeling and reacting to each other and how your body reacts by measuring your heart rate. You are shown how to know when you are too flooded with emotion to continue an interaction. And, you are shown you a way to calm yourself and help calm your partner before continuing the process.
The opportunity is here for you to improve your relationship.
Want to work on relationship things that are associated to attachment and happiness predicting with 91% accuracy whether your relationship will last another 10 years? Want to work on decreasing things in your relationship that are associated with breaking up over the next ten years with a 91% accuracy for prediction relationship break up?
Utube Video: Why I Like Couples Therapy
John Gottman video: Video taping couples research
Content
Click on each level of the strong relationship house to learn more. Call or email me with questions. I will be happy to start you off with a relationship assessment that I will score and return to you at no cost. Most people wait six years from when they could benefit by couples therapy. Why wait when you could be having a better relationship?
